Recommended Reading & Resources
Late ADHD Diagnosis: Being & Belonging After Diagnosis
If a topic in this booklet resonated with you, the resources below offer opportunities to explore it further.
1. Understanding Your Diagnosis
Learning about ADHD from trusted, accessible sources can help make sense of your experiences and remind you that you are not alone.
📖 How to ADHD – Jessica McCabe
https://howtoadhdbook.com
🎥 How to ADHD (YouTube Channel)
https://www.youtube.com/@HowtoADHD
2. Looking Back with Compassion
Understanding your past through a kinder lens can reduce regret and open the door to self-acceptance.
📖 Self-Compassion – Dr Kristin Neff
https://self-compassion.org
🌐 Centre for Mindful Self-Compassion
https://centerformsc.org
3. Letting Go of Shame
Shame often grows from years of misunderstanding rather than personal failure.
📖 The Gifts of Imperfection – Brené Brown
https://brenebrown.com/book/the-gifts-of-imperfection/
🎥 The Power of Vulnerability (TED Talk) – Brené Brown
https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability
4. Recognising Your Strengths
Learning about neurodiversity can help shift your focus from what is difficult to what is also possible.
🌐 ADHD UK
https://adhduk.co.uk
🌐 Genius Within
https://geniuswithin.org
5. Understanding Your Attention
Understanding interest-based attention and executive functioning can explain many everyday ADHD experiences.
📄 World Federation of ADHD – International Consensus Statement
https://www.adhd-federation.org/publications/international-consensus-statement.html
📖 Smart but Stuck – Dr Thomas Brown
https://www.brownadhdclinic.com
6. Understanding Your Emotions
Learning about emotional regulation can make intense emotions feel more understandable and manageable.
📖 Permission to Feel – Dr Marc Brackett
https://www.marcbrackett.com
🎥 How to ADHD – Emotional Regulation Videos
https://www.youtube.com/@HowtoADHD
7. Working With Your Energy
Understanding hyperfocus, energy cycles and pacing can help you work with your brain rather than against it.
📖 The Adult ADHD Tool Kit – Dr J. Russell Ramsay & Dr Anthony Rostain
https://www.guilford.com/books/The-Adult-ADHD-Tool-Kit/Ramsay-Rostain/9781606239998
🎧 The ADHD Adults Podcast
https://theadhdadults.uk
8. Burnout and Recovery
Recovery is not a reward—it is an essential part of sustainable wellbeing.
📖 How to Keep House While Drowning – KC Davis
https://www.strugglecare.com/book
🌐 Struggle Care
https://www.strugglecare.com
9. Relationships and Connection
Understanding ADHD can strengthen communication and reduce misunderstanding in relationships.
📖 The ADHD Effect on Marriage – Melissa Orlov
https://www.adhdmarriage.com
🎥 ADHD Love
https://adhdlove.co.uk
10. Self-Advocacy
Knowing your rights and understanding reasonable adjustments can help you access the support you need.
🌐 Access to Work (UK Government)
https://www.gov.uk/access-to-work
🌐 Equality and Human Rights Commission
https://www.equalityhumanrights.com
11. Physical and Mental Wellbeing
Looking after your physical and mental health can support long-term wellbeing alongside ADHD.
📖 Delivered from Distraction – Dr Edward Hallowell & Dr John Ratey
https://drhallowell.com/books/
🌐 NHS ADHD Information
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder-adhd/
12. Looking Ahead
Diagnosis is the beginning of understanding yourself with greater kindness, not the end of your journey.
🌐 Neurodivergent Psychology Library
(Explore practical tools, reflective guides and evidence-based resources.)
The Evidence Behind This Booklet
The reflections and information in this booklet are informed by current research, clinical expertise and lived experience perspectives. If you would like to explore the evidence further, these are excellent places to start:
Clinical Guidelines
National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE).Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: Diagnosis and Management (NG87).
https://www.nice.org.uk/guidance/ng87
Scientific Consensus
Faraone, S. V., et al. (2021).The World Federation of ADHD International Consensus Statement.
https://www.adhd-federation.org/publications/international-consensus-statement.html
Lived Experience
Jessica McCabe – How to ADHD
https://howtoadhdbook.com
Compassion-Focused Practice
Dr Kristin Neff – Self-Compassion
https://self-compassion.org
UK Information and Support
ADHD UK
https://adhduk.co.uk
FAQs about the private ADHD Assessment
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The ADHD assessment will be carried out over approximately a 4-week period with screening and report writing. There will be a 3 hour and a 2 hour appointment. You will also need some time to fill in forms. If you struggle with forms we can complete the together.
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Yes. You will need to come in person for the 3 hour appointment. Face-to-face appointments increase the quality and validity of your assessment. You can attend for the 2 hour appointment online if you wish.
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It will involve direct assessment, asking questions about your life and experiences, completing a computerized attention test and other people who know you well to give some information (if available).
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You will get the results within 2 weeks or earlier.
You will receive a draft report and can request changes before the final report will be sent to you.
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People usually go through a process to adapt to their diagnosis if they receive one. They may revisit and remember aspects of their life and what has been difficult. They will create a new story about their past and future. You can ask your psychologist for therapy and coaching to adapt to your diagnosis.
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ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) is a neurodevelopmental condition that is a natural variation in human neurology. There are challenges and potential strengths associated with ADHD are:
Attention
Mind wandering
Difficulty maintaining focus on boring things
Struggling with organisational skills
Frequently losing important items
Struggles with completing tasks
Appearing not to listen when spoken to directly
Hyperactivity :
Need for physical movement
Difficulty remaining seated when expected - Need to fidget
Internal restlessness
Difficulty engaging in quiet activities
Impulsivity:
Acting without thinking of consequences
Interrupting others
Difficulty waiting turn
Making quick decisions without consideration
With understanding and support strategies, individuals with ADHD can lead successful, fulfilling lives. (See infographic about ADHD)
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ADHD, autism and learning disability are classed as a disability by UK law. If you are working you can apply for support from the government via access to work. You will still be the same person and it can give you opportunity to understand your life journey more fully.
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I can help clients apply for pip by carrying out an assessment of independent living skills which provides detailed information about their support needs.
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Your psychologist does not have any specialised training in sensory assessments. We can refer you to a specialist we work with.
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Undergoing assessment is a very individual decision and can have positives and negatives.
Positives:
Enables identification of specific strengths and challenges
Facilitates targeted intervention planning
Supports the development of appropriate support and educational strategies
Helps identify optimal learning environments
Provides documentation for workplace accommodations
Supports access to specialist interventions
Validate lived experiences
Enhances self-understanding
Reduces self-blame for difficulties
Provides a framework for understanding past experiences
Helps develop a positive neurodivergent identity
Supports family understanding and acceptance
Informs healthcare providers about communication needs
Supports the development of personalised coping strategies
Facilitates appropriate sensory accommodations in healthcare settings
Negatives:
Increased anxiety during the assessment process
Emotional distress from detailed examination of difficulties
Heightened self-consciousness about behaviours and interactions
Potential impact on self-identity and self-concept
Risk of internalising diagnostic labels
Strain on family relationships during assessment period
Possible stigmatisation following diagnosis
Changes in how others perceive and interact with the individual
Time-consuming assessment process
Multiple appointments causing disruption to routine
Financial implications if privately funded
Energy-demanding nature of assessment sessions
Risk of misdiagnosis if masking behaviours present and Potential overshadowing of co-existing conditions
Challenges in accessing appropriate post-diagnostic support
Difficulty processing and adjusting to diagnostic outcome
Note that these effects vary significantly between individuals, and many find the diagnostic process ultimately beneficial despite these challenges.
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All diagnostic assessment rule out alternative explanations and will ass the person's mental health and development.
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If you book for an autism and ADHD assessment together less time is needed as your developmental history only has to be reviewed once and hence a discount is applied. Please speak to your psychologist.
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Your psychologist is not trained in medical prescribing. You will need to speak to a medical doctor for this such as a psychiatrist or GP

